Eight Embarrassing Work SituationsIf you caught your coworker in an embarrassing situation, would you be willing to confront him about it in order to spare him further embarrassment? An article I recently read on MSN (written by Rachel Zupek, careerbuilder.com) discussed this very question, and its survey results (concerning co-workers willing to confront other co-workers who are on their same level) are as follows: 67 percent would tell a co-worker, “your zipper is undone,” 51 percent would tell a co-worker if he had something in his nose, 66 percent would notify someone who had food in his teeth or on his face, 33 percent would tell a co-worker to brush his messy hair, 51 percent would inform a co-worker of a stain on his clothes, 28 percent would have the audacity to inform a co-worker that he stinks and needs a shower, 32 percent would let a co-worker know his clothing is inappropriate for the office, and 33 percent would tell a co-worker that he needs a breath mint.
I find the results of this study a bit questionable, because it seems as if people were asked what they “would” do (given the circumstances) instead of what they “have” done, and people usually claim they would do more than they really would do, so I’m guessing the real figures would actually be somewhat lower than what is represented in this survey. Nevertheless, the survey results are interesting, and it gets us all thinking about personal experiences wherein we told (or didn’t tell) someone about an embarrassing situation, or even worse, when someone told (or didn’t tell) us when there was something we needed to take care of.
I will tell you just a couple of the many stories of my own. For starters, a co-worker in my current office environment once walked into my office and presented me with a gift; it was a large bulk pack of Altoids mints that she had just bought for me at Sam’s. She was very polite in the giving of the gift, and she didn’t come right out and tell me I had bad breath, and so I tried to force her to say it. I laughed as I accepted the gift, and I asked, “So are you trying to tell me something?!! Is my breath bad?!!” She responded, “Well, there’s been a time or two I’ve …uhh …It’s good for pastors to have breath mints all the time …umm …I bought some for [another pastor] too, and I thought I’d get you some at the same time.” LOL! …That was more than a year ago, and I have used the gift of her breath mints MANY times to spare me from some potentially embarrassing situations. I want to thank her for that gift; she knows who she is. Thanks for caring enough to help me out!
Not long ago, I was sitting in a staff meeting with seven others around a large conference table, and (unbeknownst to me) the pen in my hand was leaking. As all of us at the table were focused on one person who was talking, I had somehow managed to get large black ink smudges all over my face and forehead (and no jokes about my forehead, to all of my students reading this..lol) without even knowing. Finally, a time came when I began to speak to everyone at the table, and everyone looked at me with wide eyes and big smiles on their faces. The person sitting beside me politely said, “Your pen is leaking. You need to go to the restroom and wash your face.” I looked down at my black hands and busted out laughing, and when I got to the bathroom, the face I saw in the mirror looked like someone had given it two black eyes and many bruises. And here’s the part I don’t understand, which is obviously a miracle from God: the pen that had leaked was a permanent sharpie pen, and yet it wiped right off of my face without a problem! However, I had formed a “plan B” while walking to the bathroom, in case the ink didn’t wash off. I was going to finish off the un-inked parts of my face with the pen, and then put on an afro-wig that I had in my office. (You’re wondering why there’s an afro-wig in my office? …Umm, don’t all youth pastor’s have one of those in their office?)
When it comes to confronting others about embarrassing situations, where do you stand? Are you one of the few who would place yourself in an uncomfortable situation in order to spare someone else further embarrassment?
How about on a spiritual level? If you noticed someone in your workplace (or anywhere else for that matter) who was suffering pain and embarrassment due to a messy and embarrassing situation, would you step-up and give them worthwhile information they need to correct the problem? The Bible’s Paul did that with Peter (Galatians 2:11-21) when Peter was acting inappropriately. Paul cared enough to see Peter correct his situation so that Peter (along with others) wouldn’t continue to suffer because of Peter’s mistake. Therefore, Paul did what was no doubt uncomfortable, and he brought the issue to Peter’s attention.
Are you willing to spare other Christ-followers further pain and embarrassment by bringing pertinent information to their attention when you’ve noticed a “mess” they are in? If so, be sure to counsel them tactfully and gracefully. Galatians 6:1 tells us, “If someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently.” Two words that we’d do well not to forget are the words “restore” and “gently.”







